Have you ever been taken by surprise by how angry you become by an interaction with your child? Have you felt feelings of shame and regret by how harshly you spoke to him or her? Have you promised that you won’t get angry like that anymore only to find yourself lashing out at your child, yet again?
Shefali Tsabury, PhD explains in her book, “Out of Control,” the mechanism behind these flashes of anger. “Each time our subconscious agenda doesn’t get met, we enter the space of a hurt child. Because our hurt self wasn’t healed when we were children, if someone reawakens this hurt within us, we erupt. This is why our children can trigger such fury in us.”
Daniel Seigel, M.D., and Mary Hartzell, M.Ed., authors of “Parenting from the Inside Out,” discuss rearing children as a chance for parental development. “When parents don’t take responsibility for their own unfinished business, they miss an opportunity not only to become better parents but also to continue their own development. People who remain in the dark about the origins of their behaviors and intense emotional responses are unaware of their unresolved issues and the parental ambivalence they create.”
Dr. Tsabury explains in her book, “The Conscious Parent,” why we experience such intense emotions while parenting. “Through our children, we get orchestra seats to the complex theatrics of our immaturity, as they evoke powerful emotions in us that can cause us to feel as though we aren’t in control–with all the frustration, insecurity, and angst that accompanies this sensation. Of course, our children don’t “make” us feel this way. They merely awaken our unresolved emotional issues from our childhood. Nevertheless, because our children are vulnerable and mostly powerless, we feel free to blame them for our reactivity. Only by facing up to the fact that it isn’t our children who are the problem, but our own unconsciousness, can transformation come about.”
If you would like to address unresolved emotional issues, I would love the opportunity to work with you. Together, we will find ways to heal your childhood wounds. You will learn how to give compassion to yourself, your children, and your parents. Becoming a conscious parent will allow you to be the peaceful, loving, patient mother or father you have always dreamed of being.
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Goal setting plays an important role in moving ourselves forward in life. At the beginning of a New Year, many people choose to make New Year’s resolutions with the intent to improve some part of their life. I have made many over the years, many of which I had given up by the third week of January. Also, there have been years in which I have sworn off the resolutions to avoid the feelings of lack of discipline and failure.
This year, after taking the first three weeks of January to consider what I wanted to create in my life, I narrowed down a list of several areas of my life that could use some help. Consistently, they all lead back to one simple basic habit. This simple, but often elusive, habit is crucial for developing and maintaining a healthy mind, body, and spirit. It’s the basic practice of getting adequate sleep. Seven to eight hours of sleep a night for an adult is considered to be healthy sleep.
Sleep affects the mind, body and spirit in numerous ways. Most everyone has short-lived bouts of insomnia, which is generally nothing to be concerned about. The bigger concern is chronic sleep loss which include sleeping issues several nights a week or less than six hours of sleep on a consistent basis. Chronic sleep loss can contribute to health problems in areas such as learning and memory, metabolism and weight, anxiety and depression, blood pressure and hormone levels, and the immune system.
Sleep allows the body to do a lot of repair work both restoratively in the body through muscle growth, tissue repair, and growth hormone as well as cognitively in the brain with neural plasticity. Sleep is a key to keeping your body and mind fit and healthy.
If you have difficulty sleeping, neurofeedback training may help you. Recently, I worked with a client who had sleep problems for over five years. After trying many sleep solutions including several prescription sleep medications and not having results, the client gave neurofeedback a try. Now, he is sleeping through the night for at least eight hours on a consistent basis.
Getting adequate sleep can have life changing effect for health and well being. Contact Pamela Key at Counseling Associates for Well-Being at (706) 425-8900 or Pamela@ca4wellbeing.com for information on how neurofeedback training can help you.
This amazing new technology has proven effective for treatment of anxiety, depression, ADHD, fibromyalgia, migraines and a host of other disorders. How does this happen?
We start with completing a brainmap that consists of applying EEG sensors to the head and measuring the brainwave frequencies. It is there where we find the inefficiencies in the brain such as the brain operating too fast where anxiety is often present or the brain operating too slow which is common with depression. The brain map will provide a guide to show what brainwave frequencies need to be trained up or down to normalize the brainwave activity.
Once the brainmap is obtained, brainwave training will begin. This is a form of operant conditioning—-establishing a new, more efficient and effective neural pathway. This is done with the client listening to music or watching a video. When the brainwave moves into the desired new zone, an auditory or visual reward is given. The brain “likes” these rewards and the new pathway is encouraged to stay in this new pattern. Repeated training conditions the neural pathway to become the new norm. Once this happens, symptoms of disorders begin to be reduced and eventually can become significantly reduced or eliminated.
For more information, contact our Neurofeedback Practitioner, Pamela Key for complimentary consult. Pamela@ca4wellbeing.com or (706) 425-8900 Ext. 702
Adding yoga as a complement to therapy for depression, anxiety, grief, and trauma can prove more powerful than talk therapy alone. “Ancient yogic practices are now evidence-based strategies for mood management”, writes Amy Weintraub, author of “Yoga Skills for Therapists”. One does not have to be flexible or able and willing to get on a mat and practice the physical poses called “asana”. Powerful breathing practices called “pranayama” as well as guided meditation and other skills are adequate for gaining the benefits of calming the nervous system and elevating or calming the mood.
I have observed these benefits as a professional, but I also know the research rings true for me personally. Yoga was instrumental in my own healing after suddenly losing a spouse 11 years ago. Over a decade later, yoga remains an integral part of my self-care. Currently, I am completing a 200 hour yoga teacher training to continue bringing these powerful practices to my clients. I am especially excited to announce my “Healing From Loss through Mind/Body Awareness” therapy group. This group will utilize yoga skills as well as group processing to heal from painful losses. I have specialized for many years in helping those who are grieving (in groups and individually) and am thrilled to offer this special opportunity. Please contact me at 706-425-8900 or email me at Suzanne@ca4wellbeing to learn more.